Supporting Emotional & Social Development

Emotional & Social Development

 

Between the ages of three and five, children make significant progress in understanding their feelings, managing behaviour and building relationships. Everyday experiences such as sharing, taking turns or learning to calm down when upset are not small moments. They are the foundations of empathy, resilience and lifelong wellbeing.

Research shows these early years are critical. Around one in five children start school developmentally vulnerable in social or emotional skills, and longitudinal studies consistently link strong preschool social-emotional development with better academic outcomes, healthier relationships and fewer mental health difficulties later in life.

Development does not look the same for every child. Neurodivergent children, including those with autism or ADHD, may need more structured or explicit support to build emotional regulation and social understanding. With consistent guidance, predictable routines and responsive parenting, all children can strengthen these core skills.

 

Here are some strategies families can use to support their preschooler’s emotional and social development:

1

Model healthy emotions

Children learn by watching you. Name your feelings and show calm coping strategies. Demonstrating empathy teaches them how to treat others.

2

Stay calm during big emotions

When your child is overwhelmed, focus first on connection rather than correction. A calm presence helps their nervous system settle and teaches that feelings are safe, even when behaviour needs guidance.Regular routines around meals, bedtime and family activities help children feel secure and know what to expect.

3

Co-regulate before you educate

Young children borrow your calm. Helping them settle first makes learning and problem-solving possible.

4

Create opportunities for play

Play is how young children learn social skills. Through imaginative play, games and group activities, they practise sharing, cooperation, problem-solving and empathy. Some children may benefit from guided play, visual supports or extra encouragement to build confidence.

5

Practise social skills in low-pressure settings

Short playdates, small group activities and guided introductions help children build confidence step by step.

6

Encourage sharing and turn-taking

Practise waiting, helping and taking turns through everyday games. Celebrate small successes to reinforce positive social behaviour.

7

Teach the language of feelings

Help your child put words to emotions using simple phrases, picture books or feelings charts. Naming emotions builds emotional literacy and can reduce frustration.

8

Support problem-solving

Guide children through conflicts with simple questions such as, “You both want the toy. What could we do?” Breaking choices into smaller options can help children who find flexibility challenging.

9

Provide predictable routines

Consistent routines create security and provide natural opportunities for connection and conversation. Predictability can be especially helpful for children who feel more secure knowing what comes next.

10

Strengthen connection and belonging

Spend small moments of one-on-one time each day. Feeling seen and valued builds emotional security and confidence in social settings.

11

Tailor support to your child’s needs

Some children benefit from visual supports, social stories, structured play or shorter, more active activities. Use your child’s interests to build social skills in motivating ways.

12

Praise effort, not just outcome

Acknowledge attempts to share, calm down or use words. Reinforcing effort builds resilience and confidence.